By now, you’ve likely realized that I tend to start most of my blogs with a question…
So, here I pose this one for you. Have you ever felt like you were stuck in a situation with someone and couldn’t get out of it or move on?
Most likely, it’s because of a soul tie!
There are two purposes to a soul tie: good or bad.
Soul ties are formed in the spiritual realm. It’s when two souls tie together. Ironically enough the Bible doesn’t talk about soul ties.
Picture that for a minute….
A SOUL TIE – what can that possibly look like in the spiritual realm. Okay, so a (soul) is what? Let’s first understand that our (souls) belong to the Lord. He created them when he created us. The soul is our mind, our will, and our emotions. It’s who we are as human beings. We are Spirit beings, Who possess a Soul, which lives in a physical Body…
Our souls are what we use to express God (as in how we think, feel, & act) As we read here in (Luke 1:46-47), And Mary said, My soul doth magnify the Lord, And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Savior.
Through our souls, we also magnify His influence and authority. (Luke 1:46)“My soul magnifies the Lord”
This is why it’s not a good thing to have soul ties to anyone apart from God, married or not. The only soul we should be tied to is that of the Holy Spirit. If He indwells us, He is entwined with our soul. (1 Corinthians 6:19)Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is within you, whom you have [received as a gift] from God, and that you are not your own [property]?
A soul tie can be experienced in a few ways, read on.
Let’s talk about a good soul tie. A marriage can be seen as a good soul tie(a good healthy God led marriage) where they are drawn together in God, for God, and only walking in the mind of God.) (Hebrews 6:19)This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God’s inner sanctuary.
The two become like a magnet. Never attached in the soul though, only the flesh, which is the spirit (Mark 20:8)and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Flesh to God is not what you’re thinking flesh is. The word flesh to God is (a heart-mind connection), that must become one In a marriage, United in heart and thought.
Another good soul tie can be for your Pastor. Where you’re there to help in any way you can, to spread the Word, and to make the Pastor’s life easier and a lot less chaotic.
But, here also, you must be careful. You have to be led by the Holy Spirit and listen to His instruction, knowing when to draw the line in your position. Yes, even with your Pastor!
There it can begin to go wrong is, If you tend to find yourself being a “YES” man to everything, things you wouldn’t normally say yes to…..like; going out of town on mission trips for weeks at a time (knowing you have a family), or by putting the needs of that Pastor before God or making Godly suggestions to benefit their daily functions of ministry, but you just forget you suggested for fear of your Pastor’s Response. Or, if (you’re being treated like a doormat). Beware! There has been a shift in that Soul tie…(Galatians 1:10)For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
The thing about a soul tie is that it can be formed with anyone. Whether a spouse, family member, Pastor, or friend. As well as through any avenue, not just sex.
Okay, so now on to what bad soul ties look like. These soul ties are those that fornicators develop.
What you need to understand is this….as a fornicator, you not only attach to the opposite sex’s soul but all the other baggage that they’re carrying from those previous partners as well. Those lingering souls that they never detached from. (1 Corinthians 6:15-16) Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”
Listen, don’t get hooked on that word (Prostate) it’s just being used to show the symbol of a negative influence by way of unacceptable behavior)
As unreal as that may sound, as for carrying around their baggage, it’s so true.
It’s not until you are completely detached and disconnected and have forgiven that person for any wrong done to you (in any past relationships) they still may have a piece of you. (Mark 11:25)But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.”
So, once again, if you have been in or have had a friendship/relationship that you have not been truly free from, most likely you’re still connected to that person(s) and still have a soul tie. This is a key sign of you still being tied….
If you find yourself thinking about the person all the time (where it consumes you)
If you find yourself driving past or sitting outside their home, or going to their job (as if you are there to eat, hangout or purchase merchandise)
Or, if you see the person with someone else and you feel hurt all over again or angered. Then their soul is still tied to yours and you have yet to release them.
Another bad soul tie is one that’s connected to a person who likes to beat on another. This soul tie is so dangerous because people have been known to die because of it.
The person who’s being abused knows that this person is no good for them, but because of the soul tie, they keep finding themselves right back with their abuser, unable to disconnect, even though they don’t feel loved, and they’re being treated like dirt.
Well, this is what bad (soul ties feel like). Those emotional ties that don’t serve God.
These soul ties are seen in the spiritual realm as, your soul being connected to someone other than God,
“Tied” to someone you would rather not be tied to, but can’t move on in life, no matter how hard you try.
Soul ties are invisible, it’s not something you can see, it’s something you experience, and when one is created you normally don’t know you’re in it.
So, How Do Soul Ties Develop?
They can develop by way of sexual intercourse (fornication), also through close relationships, idolization, witchcraft, and blood ceremonies (drinking other people’s blood).
So no, it’s not necessarily only coming because of sexual intercourse, but also from your time spent with a specific person, and working closely with them daily.
Soul ties can get so bad, to the point where that person cannot see their life without the other person. This is where “fatal attraction” and the drive to ” stalk” someone is born from.
For example, a man or woman goes on a date a couple of times and one or the other no longer wants to engage for whatever reason and stops reaching out, but one of them, in their minds seems they may have found the “ONE” and become deranged over the disconnect and start stalking the other person.
Another description of ungodly soul ties is when you take something that happened in one bad relationship and bring it into something new. And you keep doing this from one relationship to another. This is a sign of a soul tie.
Now that we have the descriptions of a good and bad soul tie, and how they get created, let’s move on.
First things first, to break all ungodly soul ties, forgiveness, and repenting (turning away from) the person you’ve formed this ungodly soul tie with is called for(John 20:23)If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you withhold forgiveness from any, it is withheld.”(Acts 3:19)Now repent of your sins and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped away.
Soul ties do not break if you still wish you could be in a relationship with that person. If you are still in love with the person, then your thinking, feelings, and decision-making will still be affected by them.
You won’t allow yourself to freely engage with the opposite sex if you want to still be with someone in your past.
You may also be still in the grieving and healing process and not ready to move on since the wounds from your past relationship still hurt.
Finally, if you want to be free of any soul tie, you must become prepared to let go of anything and everything that is still attached to this previous relationship.
You have to let go of the hope of getting back together –
You have to let go of the desire to relive the good times you had together –
And, you need to let go of the bitterness and hurt you still feel toward that person.
When you still have a soul connection with someone from a past relationship, then you’re still bound by that past relationship.
You may be asking, “well how can I break one, if I don’t know I have one.”
Trust me if you have read down this far you’ve realized that what you are reading could be a good reason for all that you find yourself going through (Christian or not) then most likely you have a soul tie with someone, either old or new…
Be honest! At one time or another, almost everyone, if not everyone, has had a soul tie or two…..
Next, comes you admitting that you could have some lingering unforgiveness you’ve been harboring and have to let go of, and let God enlighten your future, Amen!! This person or persons cannot be rid of unless you release them the right way( Psalms 119:105)Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.
Truth be told, if God is the owner of your soul and you have repented and have asked for forgiveness never to engage in those activities again, then God will get you cleaned up. ( 1John 1:9)If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
God wants to see you clear and free from anything that’s keeping you away from Him (Jeremiah 31:25)For I will satisfy the weary soul, and every languishing soul I will replenish.”
Just know that anything that tries to compete with, negates, or downplays God’s Glory has to be dealt with, in all truthfulness, because it is out of sync with, as well as out of order when it comes to God(1 Corinthians 14:33)For God is not a God of disorder but of peace, as in all the meetings of God’s holy people.
Be Blessed….
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