A marriage between believers should be one built on love, the love of Christ, which is anything but the desire to control. Wives you have to remember that you were created to be a helper. (Gen.2:18) Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Prov.18:22) Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
When the Holy Spirit comes into a person, it changes them to make them more submissive. (Jam. 13:16) When, however, the Spirit comes, who reveals the truth about God, he will lead you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own authority, but he will speak of what he hears and will tell you of things to come.
The Lord is the only One who can help you transition from disobedient into obedient, because we, (us) who were born sinners, only know how to do one thing, and that is sin, until we fully submit and surrender to Jesus as our Lord and Savior. Amen! ( John. 6:44)No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him. And I will raise him up on the last day.
The point of this message today is to show and educate you biblically on how to be submissive to your spouse, why? Because God calls for that, and honors that! ( 1 Pet.3:7) In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an intelligent regard for the marriage relationship], as with someone physically weaker, since she is a woman. Show her honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered or ineffective.
Food for Thought….” How can you submit to your husband, if you can’t submit to God? You can’t! If God is saying to the husband that his prayers will be hindered on our account, when it comes to the way they handle us, how do you think He feels concerning us, when it comes to not honoring, respecting, or submitting to our husbands as He calls us, as wives to do?
Jesus is the only One to model after for true authentic submission!
As you can see throughout the NT at how Jesus submitted to the Father’s Will, we should allow His demonstration to be an example for us to follow today. ( John.16:13) When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future.
If we would just learn to imitate Jesus in His submission to the Father, by letting go of what power we feel we possess and position ourselves as His children and humble ourselves as Jesus did, we would find that submitting to our spouse is no issue at all, Amen! ( Eph. 5:1-2)Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
And, for all the Ignorant people ( those that lack knowledge or information and don’t know God’s Word) but think that submission is about always having to be a “yes man”, when in reality it’s not. It’s about being obedient to God’s Word and to what He is asking of you as a spouse in honoring one another. This is not a one way submission. It goes both ways, for the husband and the wife. (Eph.5:21) submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
As a woman of God who is struggling with submitting to her husband, ask God to show you the truth in His Word concerning what He wants from you in your marriage, and for Him to help remove the lies you’ve picked up before your marriage, concerning ( being a submissive wife) whether from a friend or family member. Ask God to remove that stronghold out of your mind.
Paul talks about tearing down strongholds In (2 Corinthians 10) as he boldly talks to the church in Corinth concerning their negative thought patterns. Strongholds are formed to keep you in bondage! (2 Cor.10:4-5)We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments.We tear down arguments and every presumption set up against the knowledge of God; and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Stop believing that as a spouse, you can never have your own opinion, or not be able to ask questions in your marriage relating to the Word of God concerning something you don’t understand. As long as it’s done in (love, honor, and respect), there should be nothing you shouldn’t be able to go to your husband about concerning the Word of God, Amen!
Listen if the two of you are on the same page spiritually, and are ONE in Christ, then your two opinions will ultimately become one, just worded differently, and sometimes it takes the Holy Spirit to show us that….(2 Cor. 10:4) Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. (1Pet. 3:8)To conclude: you must all have the same attitude and the same feelings; love one another, and be kind and humble with one another.
I believe when a husband and wife are not on the same page spiritually and do not seek the Holy Spirit in everything, this is where the devil sees a place to come in and mess with their minds.
Please know that it is Satan at work, when you begin to think things like, ( he’s my husband not my master) or (he can’t tell me what to do or think, but the truth to that is, ” Yes he can”!! Hear me out……
Remember! (You) married that man, and he is (Your) husband! He is now the (Head) of his family and his household (you and your children), and (God) is the Head of (him), and in that order there comes (headship, leadership, accountability, obedience, and submission). And when your spouse hears you speaking against or, the opposite of what the Word of God says and it’s not aligning to what you two have been standing on, and praying for, and he chooses to hold you accountable for every idle word spoken out of your mouth, and intercedes before those words being spoken becomes a stronghold, that won’t be able to be easily broken, because it’s been planted in your heart by being spoken out of your mouth on more than one occasion and has now formed roots! Yes He Can!!! ( Eph. 5:23) For the husband is head of the wife, as Christ is head of the church, Himself being the Savior of the body.
THE UNDERSTANDING OF; Eph. 5:23
After instructing wives to submit to their husbands in verse 22, Paul provides a spiritual basis for his He uses the analogy of Christ (the husband) with the church (the wife). Christ loved the church and gave His life for it. Similarly, husbands are to love their wives and be willing to give up their lives on their behalf (Ephesians 5:25–29). Wives are to show devotion to their husbands similar to the church’s call to love the Lord.
Paul also notes the church is Christ’s “body, and [He] is himself its Savior.” Using this analogy, husband and wife are one body (Ephesians 5:31). They are called to live united, serving one another together. It is not about one person being better than the other. Instead, this is mutual submission which honors God and shows love. Jesus, as part of the Trinity, is identical in essence and equal to God the Father. And yet, He is able to submit without becoming “inferior.” This is the model of marital submission which Paul has in view. (https://www.bibleref.com/Ephesians/5/Ephesians-5-23.html)
As wives we have to be careful with what comes out of our mouths, because the truth of the matter is this………Prov. 13:12( Hope deferred (delayed hope) makes one sick at heart, but a fulfilled longing is a tree of life). Okay, what does that mean? It means, if you have to wait a long time for something that you have been praying for and have not seen it, your heart will become ( saddened, upset, faint), and start speaking against what you all have been standing on. And if that happens and your husband (who should be your accountability partner) (as you should be to him as well) does not intervene, God through prayer would have to come and pull up those roots to begin a fresh growth of truth in you, by submitting to the truth of the Word of God, and on all it has to say biblically concerning submission, because God’s ways of submission and the world’s way of submission are two totally different ways of doing and thinking!
Just know that especially in marriage there will be things that you may not want to do or hear, and God will sometimes ask one or both of you to take a stand for the greater good of your spouse, and may even ask you to humble yourself and bow out gracefully in certain situations, only for a bigger cause that you or your spouse, may not even be aware of at the time.
In situations like that, He may be trying to teach you or your spouse something He may need one or both of you to work on, or, may use that situation to bring growth on both parts. ( Rom. 8:28) And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.
Regardless of what the case may be, we are still called to submit our (will) to God’s (Will), our thoughts for God’s thoughts and our way for God’s way of doing things, Amen! (Isa, 55:8)”My thoughts,” says the LORD, “are not like yours, and my ways are different from yours.
Stop for a moment and think on this……’Jesus submitted Himself wholeheartedly to the Father’s
Will, when He came here to earth, and gave up everything He had in the Heavenly realm to become the servant of us all. Here on earth and in heaven the Father exalted Him above every authority! and we can’t do that for the one we were given to be a Wife, a Lover, and a Helper to! (Gen. 2:18)Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” ( Prov.18:22) He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. (Mark.10:8-9) And the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.
True submission in the kingdom is never about using one’s authority to control or manipulate another. It is about choosing NOT to control, or undermine others, but instead to serve the best interests of others in love. In this Christ is glorified, and in this, is our great reward in Him!
So, to all you wives who are claiming that you love God, but are still refusing to submit to your husband, check this scripture out (John 14:15)“If you love me, you will keep my commandments”
Be Blessed….
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