WHEN GRIEF CRIES OUT… ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!

Tell me what are you suppose to do when Grief and Sorrow knocks at your door? Do you do what’s expected and feel overwhelmed by pain and cry your eyes out until you can’t cry anymore  because a loved one has died?

I know no matter how deep the pain of mines or my family, we have to know that God can help and wants to help us get through this time of heartache and pain, so we can find comfort and hope.

People say and ask”are you okay?”, sorry for your loss” “their in heaven now” Is that suppose to make one feel better or do they say those things because they don’t know what else to say?

The most important thing for us all is to deal with the very pain of loss that we were faced with and us not feel guilty for not being there enough or for not being able to  speak  the last thing you wanted to speak to that person before they left this earth or not being able to say I love you and hug and kiss them one more time.

I know that grieving is a necessary part of God’s path to healing, and yes it’s natural and considered to be a healthy process that helps us recover from the oh, so terrible emotional wounds left behind, but He never said it would be easy.

When I first heard of the great loss of someone I loved so deeply, I was launched into a whirlwind of emotions. I felt like I was dreaming and was waiting to be wakened up….words of “He’s gone, He’s dead, He’s not here anymore were like a fairytale that I had a part in. The part where in the end your awakened by your parent to tell you to get ready for school. My words alone cannot explain how I felt at that moment in time.

My initial reaction was SHOCK, then my reaction to that was ANGER, then my reaction to that anger was SOBBING, sobbing for him, sobbing for my family, sobbing for his son, sobbing for me because I didn’t have the opportunity to tell him goodbye, to tell him I loved him one more time.

Then I had to tell myself to pull it together and lay aside the weight that was to heavy for me to carry –  HEB. 12:1 therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.

I know I couldn’t leave my grief unresolved because it’d  be  another tactic of the enemies that leads to depression and a slew of other issues and traps he sets.

In Eccl. 3:1-4 says For everything there is a season,
    a time for every activity under heaven.
² A time to be born and a time to die.
    A time to plant and a time to harvest.
³ A time to kill and a time to heal.
    A time to tear down and a time to build up.
⁴ A time to cry and a time to laugh.
    A time to grieve and a time to dance.

God comforts His people in times of sorrow and loss. Look at Job and how he clung desperately to God, despite his horrific  loss and a wife that wanted him to curse God and die  ( Job 1:13-22,Job 2:9). What about David, a man after God’s own heart, openly grieved his son’s death ( 2 Sam. 12)

Jesus is the best example we have to follow when it comes to us combining faith and grief as seen in John 11:1-45. Jesus seeing Mary and Martha in great pain and anguish over the death of their brother Lazarus. Jesus wept and groaned also out of the grief He felt. Even though Jesus knew He was there to raise Lazarus from the dead He still allowed Himself to feel what Mary and Martha felt and to express his human sorrow.

We too can take comfort in knowing that Jesus experienced all of the pain, loss, rejection, betrayal and dying as our Lord and Redeemer. Just knowing that Jesus took all of our sins to the cross and forgives us when we ask for forgiveness and repent for our wrongdoings.

As our Lord He leads us through the valley of the shadow of death (Psa. 23:4) Even when I walk
    through the darkest valley
I will not be afraid,
    for you are close beside me.
Your rod and your staff
    protect and comfort me.

Faith in Christ doesn’t prevent grief when a believer dies; it just helps us to know that in grief there also is hope.  For Christians to live is Christ, and to die is to gain (Phil.1:21) for to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain.

People say all manners of things when you lose someone, but you have to be careful what is being spoken at that time of grieving especially when saying “God took them home” because that can cause that person to become angry at God if they do not know Him personally. It’s never God that takes life but gives (John 10:10)

The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life. The peace of God does not come from our circumstances, but from drawing close to Him. Where there is pain hand it over, where there is anger hand it over so He can replace it with what you really need.

Jesus said in Matt. 5:4 God blesses those who mourn,
    for they will be comforted. God pulls us into His loving and caring arms so He can heal our wounded hearts.

Grief can affect so many areas in one’s life like our thinking, our behavior, our emotions, our relationships and our health. It can also affect your sleep; bring on exhaustion, loss of appetite and more. As I have learned, all of these things are common reactions to grief, but the only cure is Jesus.

We have to allow ourselves to grieve just for a little while and not deny or repress the pain because it can and will lead to emotional problems, and we know that’s  just another trick of the enemy to keep us in bondage.

Believing should be nothing but another part of the grieving process. Because once you have grieved we have to put our faith in God’s promises, trusting that He knows best and that His understanding is perfect in every situation. ( Isa.55:9).

Ok, now it’s time to receive, receive God’s comfort, reach out and take a hold of it through prayer and meditation in His word.

Some of our afflictions come as consequences of sin, and others are intended to keep us from sin. Some afflictions make us draw closer to God and enable us to grow spiritually. Our heartaches only make us realize that God’s way is best. No matter the pain, God means it for good in our lives just He did in the life of Joseph.  Joseph said “you intended to harm me, but God intended it for the good to accomplish what is now being done, which is saving other lives.” (Gen. 50:20) ⁰ you intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.

We have got to know our limitations and remember that God is the only One who heals the brokenhearted and binds their wounds ( psa. 147:3) He heals the brokenhearted  and bandages their wounds. He is the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all of our troubles.

God is real and His promises of scripture are true and there is life after loss. Our future is as bright as the promises of God. All separation is temporary for a believer because one day we will be forever with the Lord and we will see each other again one day. 

John says in (Rev. 21:1-4) then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the old heaven and the old earth had disappeared. And the sea was also gone. ² And I saw the holy city, the New Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven like a bride beautifully dressed for her husband.

³ I heard a loud shout from the throne, saying, “Look, God’s home is now among his people! He will live with them, and they will be his people. God himself will be with them.⁴ He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.”

 That day is coming where we no longer have to be subject to death, pain, sickness or disease.

  Thank you to all of you who reached out to me in this time of loss.

Be Blessed………